x-sender: governor.haley@sc.lmhostediq.com x-receiver: governor.haley@sc.lmhostediq.com Received: from mail pickup service by IQ12 with Microsoft SMTPSVC; Sun, 15 Feb 2015 18:45:49 -0500 thread-index: AdBJeYanNKzV++l6TtmuugcYa7oArA== Thread-Topic: Domestic Violence From: To: Subject: Domestic Violence Date: Sun, 15 Feb 2015 18:45:49 -0500 Message-ID: MIME-Version: 1.0 Content-Type: text/plain; charset="iso-8859-1" Content-Transfer-Encoding: 7bit X-Mailer: Microsoft CDO for Windows 2000 Content-Class: urn:content-classes:message Importance: normal Priority: normal X-MimeOLE: Produced By Microsoft MimeOLE V6.1.7601.17609 X-OriginalArrivalTime: 15 Feb 2015 23:45:49.0429 (UTC) FILETIME=[86BF2A50:01D04979] CUSTOM Ms Roxanne J Smith PO Box 85583 Lexington SC 23079 Rjsmith.2442@yahoo.com 5037988092 PCOR Domestic Violence Hello. My name is Roxanne, and I just recently moved to South Carolina, from Oregon. (And honestly it wasn't because of the ridiculousness of the Gov. John Kitzhauber and his "First Lady"). I was married to an abusive former Oregon State Trooper for almost 20 years. When he broke my wrist, I went for help. Little did I know, that because of his police association, they would not help me. If I were to receive any help, I would have to change my name, my three kids' names, and lose my nursing license. Effectively taking away my ability to care for my children. It's been almost 15 years since I divorced him (a VERY unpleasant event). Just a few of his tactics.....tapping my home phone, following me, harassing every friend I had, stalking me at my work, to the point he had a restraining order from Salem Memorial Hospital, because my co-workers were afraid....I will gloss over the threats of killing me and anyone I dated and knowing exactly where to bury them....). After he remarried, I thought things would get better, but it actually doubled the threats, as she hated me with the same passion...it was/is baffling as I've never met the woman. The worst part about this, is the emotional torment and abuse that he has heaped on three very innocent children (telling them at very young ages, 8, 6, 4, that he wasn't their father....but he was too heartbroken for the confirmation)... My kids are now 24, 22 and 19. He has effectively isolated 2 of the 3 children from me. (Turns out children who desperately want a relationship with their daddy, even if he is satan, can be bought very easily). I need to take some accountability of this....I did not believe that bad mouthing their dad was the way to go...even though, they did know he didn't pay child support...and there were some lean days, days where I couldn't take them to school, as I didn't have any gas. Why am I writing you? At the last child support hearing, he made a motion of a gun shooting me, with this smile, that haunts me...well that, and the fact that I had people following me and taking pictures of me (I'm really NOT crazy--I have witnesses). After court, I was terrified. I could hardly think straight. I had been toying with the idea of moving...but where would I be safe? I initially decided on HAWAII, but the cost is prohibitive, and with 3 dogs and an import tax...yikes. So after researching extensively, my best friend and I packed up a uhaul, with no notice, (fortunately my supervisor was supportive) over thanksgiving and left. I have left just about everything behind, friends, possessions and a secure job. It's been really really hard. My concern, and my reason for the long winded email, is, with my nursing license, he can look me up and find out where I am. I don't know how to get around this....and I don't know how to change my name and link it back so I don't loose everything I do have. What I want is to change my name so he cannot look me up. I am scared to death that he will find me. It is such a horrible way to live. He did the same thing to my parents. They are also sick with worry. This is not a sane person in dealing with, but as a human being I should be able to live in peace, and I can't. It's heartbreaking enough to have lost my 2 children to him and the horrendous slanderous lies he's told. Please, I beg of you, can you help me? Thank you. Roxanne